She took a brush from him with a smile, considering his words. She had never been at the head of an army, though she had wanted to be, and the rest of her life was lived in a court, but he was correct. Friends could be more informal.

"I think it may always feel right to say to some. I have taken to asking everyone how they wish to be addressed. I still do not always remember not to call them ladies or lords, but I am trying to."